"I decided to age well - mobilizing its vital energy," Claudine-Badey Robriguez, Albin Michel
Can we decide to age well?
Claudine Badey-Rodriguez, psychologist, psychotherapist, said yes. She says, as outlined entitled "Mobilizing the vital energy" that we can take an active part in our destiny, and are free to be open to change to change what can evolve in our environment and our psyche. After all, aging well, is not it, in the way, ensuring our lives and our health in the broadest sense, that is to say physical but also psychological? Be kind with yourself, then, throughout life. Aging learned.
Ageing well learned, says the author discusses many valuable ways to reduce stress, and particularly developing his inner life, if only to find that the old meaning and value.
There is in this book indeed much to take, to learn and to learn.
"Contributing to that old age is approached in a constructive manner" when it was committed in this book the first wish of the author, which addressed itself a milestone age. She continued her reflection, she says with an even more ambitious goal: "the envy of this experience positively! ". The key word for Claudine Badey-Rodriguez is to accept the "process of life." Action is needed on the factors that may contribute to a "successful aging".
First, it invites us to resist the ubiquitous injunction to stay young, to let go of our fears and turn their back on performances and speeches that make old age and aging a disaster, a shipwreck, a decay, a scourge. Claudine Badey-Rodriguez did not actually deprive the company to report that hides its old, abuse, depicts dependent, useless, demented, so much so that the old self-hate old.
It also denounces the lack of means to serve the elderly in our country where a million women over age 60 are not even minimum wage to live.
Social representations of old age have a disastrous impact on our aging author argues that encourages interest in those who preceded us on the way here or elsewhere, those she met in her career and are a testimony that can be old, even fragile, and even decreased happy.
"Successful aging is also in the head," said Claudine Badey-Rodriguez for having seen and heard mostly by listening to older people. Of course, respecting the basic principles of prevention, by taking into small pieces by hand. But it is also in tune with itself, its needs, priorities and limitations that convent to tackle.
We must "work to age," concludes the author of groomed by older people she met and whose stories punctuate the book but also the results of many studies and research on the characteristics of people age well. They are similar to those that characterize people who overcome serious illness: control over his life, optimism, fighting spirit, spiritual practice or development of his inner life, social relationships.
Breaks are needed in the process of life is of successive steps to be taken "to access each of the following with the wealth that has been cultivated for the last."
Claudine Badey-Rodriguez is convinced to have experienced such crises that mark the existence of these "transition periods", she prefers to say, are one after the other "the opportunity to regain sensation of course, be open to new interior spaces, the freedom that we can feel when the past does more smoothly and that the future does not obsessed. "
Old age is it meets a greater crisis yet? Maybe, it depends on the preparation throughout the life we will have done but the author strongly believes, old age may also "be considered with its potential for evolution, change." The most important time to be be able to "gain psychic force that is lost in physical force."
Claudine Rodriguez Badey opens the way to reduce stress that can cause advancing age in a society that evokes old age in terms of losses and shortfalls. Situations on the one hand, beliefs, on the other hand are generating stress. They should identify and "learn to defuse them." Approaches used to revisit the past to get rid of bulky packages of the past or unsatisfactory aspects of this.
The aim is certainly to be able to approach the home stretch of existence by having precisely recognized himself and for himself, first, the meaning of his own old age, its value. Is this possible without developing, formerly his inner life? Identify its mission in a way. How, indeed, old age could be meaningful even if life is free? The meaning of life could it not be fair to live well and age well or so of aging well. "Yes, optimism can be learned!" concludes the author in a final chapter.
Do not miss, from your local bookseller, on April 1.
I decided to age well. Mobilize its vital energy
Claudine Badey-Rodriguez, Editions Albin Michel, 278 pages, € 15
Claudine Badey-Rodriguez, psychologist, psychotherapist, consultant, lives in Nice. She is the author of "Life in a retirement home" and "When the character becomes difficult with age"
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